I checked in with a wise Crone tonight, who seems like she has her “stuff” together. I asked her where she thought I should start back on my journey.
The wise woman who I spoke to remind me of something very important, “be the best you!!!”. How far I have fallen from such a simple teaching. I’ve spent time hiding, ducking, crying, fearing pain, hating where I was, and unable to imagine that where I was could be the perfect place or moment. I’ve forgotten that some days, the best me is coping with my chronic pain and trying to be gentle with myself rather than adding on more pain. Sigh. Deep Breath. Can I, as Stephen Levine has asked, just have some mercy for myself in the moment? Can I have some sweet thoughts for those around me?
She suggested the following three books: The Art of Happiness (HHDL), The Four Agreements (Don Miguel Ruiz), and Letting Go (David R Hawkins). So I guess that’s where I will start.
The Four Agreements is the easiest read, if I remember correctly. It’s been so long since I first read it.
What are the Four Agreements? Simply they are:
- Be Impeccable with Your Words
- Don’t Take Anything Personally
- Don’t Make Assumptions
- Always Do Your Best
How do we forget that it’s this simple? How do we forget that it’s as simple as breathe, two, three, four. Breathe, two, three, four. Somehow you got on number 12 and you should only be counting to four. . . go back to the beginning and breathe. . . You know how we forget? No one tells us that when we are kids. I don’t ever remember someone saying to me, take a deep breath and let go. I heard, “stand up straight”, “I’ll give you something to cry about”, “you’re no better than he is”, “it’s too bad you aren’t more like your brother”, etc. I never heard, “stick with it”, “it gets better”, “don’t take what other’s say personally”, “only here and now counts”, or “be present because you don’t know if you’ll have the next moment”.
So here I am, in a crone’s body — re-learning or learning the lessons that a child should have learned. That’s ok. I’m still learning it in this life, and not the next, or whatever comes next. 🙂
Let’s get started, shall we? Don Miguel Ruiz. What are your thoughts about his work in general? Let me know what you think about the agreement: Be impeccable with your words. Next time, that’s what we’ll explore.
Peace, love, & harmony or as close as we can come.